A Day in the Life: My biological clock is tick, tick, ticking!

Saturday, August 21st, 2010 at 10:11 AM

lil man Kenzo and his father, actor Djimon Hounsou

Lately, it seems all I have been thinking about is reproducing. Weird, isn’t it? Constantly in my thoughts are the cutest little babies, daydreams of having another child and ideas of what I wish to have next and what to name them. I have been turned on more than ever by the idea of procreating. I find myself fantasizing more and more about my man and find it harder to get the idea of going half on a baby out of my mind when it’s late at night or early in the morning- times when I am the most lonely and by myself.

I thought I was going crazy, since I never have felt this strongly about building some non-existent family before, never been big on expressing myself on the topic of sex, and I still have my senses, certainly not wanting to be another man’s baby mama without doing things right the second time around… that means being happily married. So, I was happy but surprised at what I found when well into my boredom I decided to check some things out for myself, and looked into why I could be feeling this way so suddenly and with some kind of urgency that Ive never had before.

Come to find out, my internal biological clock is ticking away and the feelings are real! Did you know that a woman’s biological clock, which are actual emotions a woman can develop is a metaphor for the sense of urgency that many women might feel on approaching menopause childless, or reaching their thirties unmarried. Another interesting fact is that physically, after a woman reaches the age of 30, she’s lost 90 percent of her ovarian eggs for good, so her body may be sending the mind little signals of it running out of time. Yikes, in that case, I need to get busy and quick! haha… So after many months of thinking about this on my own I finally decided to talk about my urges with a special someone, but was shot down miserably-oooh that felt bad, so I think that response has curbed my enthusiasm a little bit at the least.

Anyway, I want to let you all know that if you have sickle cell anemia, do not let that stop you in your dreams or urges of wanting to have children. I am no doctor but it is possible, and I have done it myself. You will be a high risk pregnancy of course. Keep your relationship with your doctors and ob-gyn open and ask them about your options. Learn the ins and outs of the HgbS gene and how your mate having that may want you to think twice about children, because with it, you could pass on the disease. Get educated, get support, and most importantly, get prepared, and you can do anything you put your heart into! Soon as I get the opportunity, I will…..hehehe